Ways To Prevent Going Into Mombie Mode
Mombie Mode can feel like it will never end. We’re here to say, you can make it through this. Here are seven tips to help you from being a Mombie.
Tip #1: Take Care of Your Nutrition
We get it; taking care of nutrition is challenging and time-consuming. THRIVE Experience’s 3 Steps are an excellent way to take your nutrition to the next level or give it the jumpstart you desperately need.
Prior to discovering the THRIVE Experience, Ashley felt unmotivated, moody, and exhausted, “I was not the fun-loving mom I’d always pictured I would be. We’d get home and I didn’t have anything left to give my kiddos or 6 animals.”
Despite her skepticism, in December 2018, Ashley tried the THRIVE Experience. Within 1 day, she didn’t crave coffee or energy drinks and had energy to enjoy her 3 boys at the end of the day. “Overall, I felt happy!”
Tip #2: Exercise Self-Compassion
As a mom, you are under a lot of pressure to perform at optimum levels 24/7. There are the children, your partner, the dog, the cat, your mother-in-law, your boss, all with expectations of what you should be doing. Add in your expectations for yourself and the stress levels skyrocket.
If you’re facing Mombie Mode, it’s time to extend self-compassion to yourself.
So, take a moment to breathe.
Let go of all those expectations and your perceived failures. Give yourself a little space to breathe and be slower to criticize yourself when you think you aren’t the “perfect mom”. After all, if this was your best friend we were talking about, you’d have a lot of compassion for her, wouldn’t you?
Tip #3: Have Good Boundaries
Setting boundaries is an important part of self-compassion. It’s possible to find a good balance between meeting your responsibilities and also saying “no” to things you don’t have the time or emotional capacity for. You can even say “no” to the people who drain your energy. You and your children are the priority.
It’s better to say “no” to the PTA bake sale if you know it leaves you feeling frustrated and over-extended. Take the time to learn how much you can reasonably handle so you can avoid becoming a Mombie.
Tip #4: Do the Things You Love
Feeling like there’s more chaos than routine in the house? When you say “no” to the things in your life that are draining, it can give you space to build routines and do what you love. Adding in the things you love will energize you and help you from going into Mombie Mode.
As you go through your week, look for the gaps in your schedule to insert something life-giving. What did you love doing before you had children? Painting? Singing? Playing volleyball? Look for ways to reintegrate that into your life. It will look different, but that’s okay.
If you’re an introvert who used to have a lot of “me” time, it may be as simple as enjoying a hot drink and journaling for 10 minutes once everyone is in bed. No matter how tired you feel, those 10 minutes can make a big difference to calm your mind and help you sleep better.
If sports are your thing, get the children outside and play together. It’ll keep you active and will help your children expend pent-up energy and emotions.
Whatever it is, find at least one thing in the morning to ground you, and one thing in the evening to relax you.
Bonus Tip: An excellent way to relieve stress is to have a dedicated outdoors-only yelling-at-the-top-of-your-lungs time for you and the whole family!
Shavonne’s daily routine before THRIVING started with hitting the snooze button as many times as she could. “I would get up just to put the kids in front of the TV and lay on the couch. I was unhappy with myself, always complaining about my body, and felt exhausted, both mentally and physically.”
On her first day of the THRIVE Experience, Shavonne felt the difference “I expected to see results within a few weeks, yet I felt the clean energy right away. Day 3 felt just as good as Day 1 and I was so much happier about the fact that I was waking up before my alarm. I even started losing weight sooner than expected! I knew I was going to continue this journey after Day 10.”
Tip 5: Get Adequate Sleep
If it’s between a good night’s sleep or doom scrolling on social media, choose the sleep. Adequate sleep is essential for the overall health of your body, but it’s not easy for a busy mom.
So, what can a tired mom do if the baby is keeping you up all night or you’re still tired after a full night of sleep? You may need nutritional support to help get better sleep and give you the energy you’re craving.
Jennifer, a full-time student and professional with 2 kids, was running on fumes and felt moody all the time. Her lack of energy kept her from wanting to upkeep her day-to-day responsibilities.
“After working 12-hour days, I didn’t have the energy to play with my kids or focus on my schoolwork. All I wanted to do was to get restful sleep.”
When Jennifer discovered the THRIVE Experience, she ordered a 4-week supply. “On Day 1, I was able to focus and have the energy to do the daily things that needed to be done. Instead of napping, I was able to do simple things like clean the house, do schoolwork and take my kids to the park.”
Tip 6: Take a Mental Health Day
If it’s possible, take a mental health day devoted to giving yourself space to disconnect from stressors. Enlist the help of family or friends to take the children and resist the urge to check up on them through the day. Don’t use this day to check off things on your to-do list, instead find something to restore your depleted energy and emotions. Do something for you!
If you can’t secure childcare, build in a mental health day for the whole family. Plan for a low-stress day of activities that are soothing, quieting and restorative to your mental wellness. While the children watch a movie, snuggle into your favorite chair with earbuds and a magazine. Then take time to draw, be outside, build something together, and talk about your emotions as a family.
Tip 7: Reach Out for Emotional Support
In all of this, just remember you aren’t the only mom who has ever struggled with going into Mombie Mode. There is support out there, but sometimes you have to ask for help. Just as you need to look after your nutrition, have good boundaries and get enough sleep, you may need more. Let the people around you know you need extra emotional support; ask for help to get the things done that are on your to-do list.
This is only a season in your life, being in Mombie Mode won’t last forever.